Friday, December 21, 2012

Mad Dash to the Finish Line

I don't know who Mr. Pipo is, but this image rocks.
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Yea, yea, yea. The ole "I've been a blogger slacker" post. The "I've been too busy" post. The "Too emotional with all that's going on in the world" post. Whatevs. Get to it.

We are on full throttle for surrogacy to start next cycle - which means hopefully the end of this month. (Crap - no drinking on NYE!) I've been a mess trying to get everything done in time, but we really wanted to pay as much as we can this year for tax purposes. Since I didn't work for 8 months this year, much more is applied. 

Plus, let's be real, every month for me counts now. My AMH is like .7 and my FSH is 12.7. Not good. Not horrible, but not good. This will be the last shot with my eggs - period. If this doesn't work I'll crawl into a hole until we are able to consider the donor egg option. 

I have to say that having my first 2 surro cycles in India did not prepare me for the complicated mess I would  have to endure here in the US. In India we just had to show up and they directed us for everything else. Here we are on are own and have to stay on top of things like a frenzied squirrel. Crimmy, I'm even going to have to give myself shots. With my ADD, this is not encouraging. 

Some of the things I've been juggling: 
  • Coordinating 4 individual schedules with tight deadlines on when specific things have to be done. Guess who's schedule always gets the shaft (to be expected.)
  • Countless phone conversations occurring middle of the day, for a length of time, that has me leaving my trusty cubicle to go hide talk in a conference room. Lest my cube mates get to hear me go on-and-on about the FDA required STD tests I have to take. "Yes, I need you to add Chlamydia  Gonorreia  HIV, Hepatitis  PPD, ... to my blood order. Oh I'm sorry, you want me to repeat that LOUDER for the 3rd time? Ok."
  • Working with 3 different pharmacies to find out which can give me the best price, without sacrificing reliability/comfort level of getting all the right things at the right times. All of this again on the phone during business hours. All pharmacies have been given the Rx by doctor and are ready to ship ship ship. "Yes, I'm confirming the order. OH WAIT, you are with whom?"
  • Phone interviewing lawyers with experience in surrogacy to see who can meet our tight deadline (are you sensing several themes yet?) 
  • Going BACK AND FORTH with my new primary care physician office to try and convince them to add STD blood tests to my blood order for my physical. This way there is a chance insurance will cover it, but I had to go back and forth with them for about 2 weeks. Otherwise it's a couple grand out of pocket.
  • Getting a physical so that additional items will be covered under insurance that wouldn't under my RE.
  • Multiple doctor visits. Blood drawn yesterday AND today because I had to use 2 different labs. Trying to juggle all these without raising a flag (hopefully) at my new job has been an incredible feat. I'm a contract employee and want to go perm when my contract is up in April. 
  • Psych evals - and while I appreciate the "concern" over my emotions, it really was a total waste of time/money for my husband and I. Everything that was discussed in the group session we had already discussed with them privately. I totally "get" why you would want to have one with the surro and the surro spouse, and even a group one, but I don't think every IP couple needs to have this done. Especially if you've been through the process before (even in another country). Thankfully the doctor put the ones for hubby and I as a "family counseling" code - hoping insurance will at least cover that. 
  • Trying to get surros insurance documentation to make sure there is no surrogacy exclusion. Not their fault, but company's fault it is taking so long. 
There is more I am sure, but between balancing that and everything else in my life, my brain is kinda fried at the moment. I still have Christmas shopping to complete. Hell, I haven't even gotten all my cards out yet. 

On a Happy Happy note. Insurance covered a HUGE portion of my fertility medications. The pharmacy (Village Fertility) checked on a whim for insurance coverage (even though I told them it wouldn't be covered) and apparently a big chunk was. Had to pay just a little over 1K out of pocket - which is awesome since it was looking to be about 6.5K. She explained that even though we have BCBS for medical (THE SUCK for infertility treatments), the pharmacy is different and is quite good. Covered under Medco, formerly Express Scripts. I guess the lesson is: always check to see if insurance will pay. Even when you are sure they won't. 

On an unhappy note - I had no idea that the attorney was going to be so much. 2500 for the surro agreement (REQUIRED) and then another 4K if we make it to the second/third trimester. They have to go to court and petition that our names are put on the birth certificate. Otherwise we would have to adopt our own child. GAH! Oh well, I guess we should totally HOPE/PRAY/RAIN DANCE that we are so fortunate as to get to shell out the money in the future. That would be a good thing - right?

That's it for now. And to prove how busy I am at the moment, I'm going to publish this after only "checking" it once for mistakes. That's HUGE for me. Normally I read it and change it 10x. THAT'S HOW BUSY I AM. Or crazy. You choose. 


  1. Wow! I'm so excited for you and crossing my fingers it all works out! Good luck! So your surrogate was successful in quiting smoking?

    *I am not able to see the picture?

    1. Yes - so far so good on the smoking. Keep you fingers crossed.
      That's weird you can't see the pic. It's here:

  2. Wow, your plate is definitely full! Wishing you the very best of luck! Happy ICLW!

  3. Wishing you success in your upcoming cycle. You sound like a very organized person, which is something that definitely comes in handy when dealing with infertility. Whether adopting or going through fertility treatments, there are always a lot of dates to remember, forms to sign etc... not to mention money to shell out!!

    1. I'm actually NOT typically organized, so I have to be hyper-organized or it all falls apart. Some people come by it naturally, I'm not one of those.LOL.

  4. HI from ICLW! Wow sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Hope it all goes well.

  5. How's the GC doing with the smoke free program?......fingers crossed for you,

    1. Right now she is doing well. They say the Chantix is really helping. The husband had one slip, but is now back on track.

  6. Full speed ahead! Woohoo! I'm excited for you!

    Happy ICLW!

  7. That sure is enough to keep you busy, but it's so awesome that you're going to be able to be so much closer to this whole adventure! Keep on keepin on!

  8. Wow, that's a crazy schedule alright. Good luck! Visiting from ICLW.

  9. That's awesome about the insurance coverage! GL to you! Visiting from ICLW.

  10. That seems like a crazy schedule! Good luck! Marie here from ICLW

  11. My goodness! I hope this week is a very productive one for you. Hope you had a Merry Christmas!


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