tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post5555264093113111857..comments2023-06-09T02:39:54.793-07:00Comments on A Passage to Baby: Making Announcements - Getting PersonalA Passage to Babyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-57418900685999909762013-06-29T09:35:55.867-07:002013-06-29T09:35:55.867-07:00That's exactly what happened.
And yes, I love ...That's exactly what happened.<br />And yes, I love that I made the decision early on to make my blog private. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-51549032855916603562013-06-29T09:34:34.036-07:002013-06-29T09:34:34.036-07:00Thanks!!Thanks!!A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-26521767557436069892013-06-29T09:34:17.765-07:002013-06-29T09:34:17.765-07:00You were so right!You were so right!A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-49722071584319679172013-06-29T09:33:52.234-07:002013-06-29T09:33:52.234-07:00Hey Jen - sorry for the delay. I wrote another pos...Hey Jen - sorry for the delay. I wrote another post on this after we decided. My worry was all for naught. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-14004399493283396782013-06-29T09:33:04.972-07:002013-06-29T09:33:04.972-07:00This is so true. I don't know why I worry abou...This is so true. I don't know why I worry about stuff like that. I'm going to go out on a limb and say it probably bothers me because I was bullied as a kid by other kids. I was very socially awkward. I also tend to be very private with a lot of things, which isn't always conducive when you are part of a large social circle. LOL. <br />A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-39432055191041676142013-06-29T09:29:20.799-07:002013-06-29T09:29:20.799-07:00LOL. I didn't even notice the bad spelling.
...LOL. I didn't even notice the bad spelling. <br /><br />The response ended up great. My husband is so social (thus me being in constant social situations) that I didn't want to deal with me thinking about what people were thinking. Basically, I didn't want to be the center of gossip and guesses. Announcing it on facebook helped elevate that for me, but I think it really depends on each individual. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-30994794340922446952013-06-29T09:25:28.318-07:002013-06-29T09:25:28.318-07:00It was much easier than I expected. Maybe we have ...It was much easier than I expected. Maybe we have just chosen our friends well, but just getting the basics out there helped me down the road with "wondering" what people were thinking. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-80278050513186729432013-06-29T09:24:05.776-07:002013-06-29T09:24:05.776-07:00Thanks! That's pretty much what we did as well...Thanks! That's pretty much what we did as well. The questions only came when we saw people in person and they were respectful. I found in person I was quite happy to share the details. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-70561707040444497182013-05-18T07:54:28.809-07:002013-05-18T07:54:28.809-07:00I think kharini said it best. I'm not sure you...I think kharini said it best. I'm not sure you would get a ton of questions on FB, more congrats and best wishes. Although, I'm sure there are some insensitive people out there. I agree with you about keeping your blog anonymous. It's nice to have a place to write/connect without a filter. I only have 2 irl people that know about my blog and I think I'll keep it that way. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-35176176623509173362013-05-16T12:09:28.892-07:002013-05-16T12:09:28.892-07:00Sure. Email addy is just my name/title here - all...Sure. Email addy is just my name/title here - all as one word. I use google for email. A Passage to Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190701499572333220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-81385579652305300672013-05-14T16:43:35.555-07:002013-05-14T16:43:35.555-07:00I am the poster who is currently doing DEIVF in At...I am the poster who is currently doing DEIVF in Atlanta with a gestational carrier and we just had our first failed cycle at RBA with donor eggs and I was wondering if I could email you off line ? I don't see an email address and I completely understand if you'd prefer followes not to connect with you though a personal email.<br /><br />I hope all is well and your babies are doig well !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-82749540126360750822013-05-07T09:55:27.971-07:002013-05-07T09:55:27.971-07:00I haven't been following your blog long, so pa...I haven't been following your blog long, so pardon my ignorance. How about a FB post like:<br />"We are thrilled to announce our pregnancy through surrogacy and the pending arrival of twins"<br />The questions:<br />Q: Why are you using a surrogate?<br />A: It's been a really long journey, and we are so fortunate that my SIL has agreed to carry our children for us.<br />Q: Were you just afraid of getting fat?<br />A: If only it were that easy, but it was a long journey and we are so fortunate that my SIL agreed...blah blah blah<br />Q: So did your hubby sleep with her?<br />A: Surrogacy is such a beautiful gift that does not involve sex, and we are so fortunate....again, blah blah blah.<br /><br />You get the idea. Keep the focus on the wonderful blessing that your SIL is and how the journey was difficult but you cannot wait to meet your children!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-2060241408510519272013-05-06T14:55:28.485-07:002013-05-06T14:55:28.485-07:00Hey! Thanks for commenting -- just followed it bac...Hey! Thanks for commenting -- just followed it back to your blog here and wow, what an exciting time to be joining your adventure! I'm certainly not the person to ask when it comes to making the big reveal to the extended circle. I basically plan on never making a Facebook announcement at all. But I do think you will be pleasantly surprised by the support you receive over the surrogacy sitch; more people are taking this route now than ever and it's less of a scary mystery. YeahScience!http://www.yeahscienceblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-48193062768994200912013-05-06T14:21:12.420-07:002013-05-06T14:21:12.420-07:00I totally agree with you. Well said!I totally agree with you. Well said!Tandoori Vikinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997569594882551086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-16625786109320092172013-05-06T13:54:11.593-07:002013-05-06T13:54:11.593-07:00I like what babydreams2011 did, just saying that y...I like what babydreams2011 did, just saying that you are having twins via surrogacy thanks to your wonderful SIL. I doubt people will ask on your wall, if they do, I would delete or ignore. If someone emails you privately you can always say the truth, the reason why you couldn't carry and how wonderful your SIL is. I think people will be happy for both of you, and who cares about the gossip, no way to control that. A week later the gossip will turn to something else :)kharinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06760406074795967083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-48849513594101293302013-05-06T13:15:56.528-07:002013-05-06T13:15:56.528-07:00I have been dealing with the same question lately....I have been dealing with the same question lately. We have told all our family and close friends and now it's time to let the rest of our friends and acquaintances know. i am assuming I will do this on FB but keep delaying because I don't know what to say. I don't want to get into specifics about our IF, but I would like to acknowledge that we had a struggle and these twins are not some random fluke of nature. Keep us posted on what you decide. JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-6096277005688457202013-05-06T05:52:03.100-07:002013-05-06T05:52:03.100-07:00Sorry for my bad spelling. Little Viking started t...Sorry for my bad spelling. Little Viking started to cry so I posted without reading through :(Tandoori Vikinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997569594882551086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-33453498454809633872013-05-06T05:50:16.085-07:002013-05-06T05:50:16.085-07:00Oh, this is so so hard. As Sweden is a country whe...Oh, this is so so hard. As Sweden is a country where surrogacy is not even allowed (allthough it's not illegal to travel abroad and do surrogacy), this was rather delicate for us. Most of our more peripheral "friends", still don't know either about my cancer nor how our second child was born. We just don't think it's relevant for them to know about - especially now when everything is behind us. But people who really needed to know where my colleagues http://tandooribaby.blogspot.se/2011/10/we-are-25-weeks-and.html <br />Only our closest family knows. <br />But well, about people questioning "why did you not tell me earlier etc., this is something that you should not even need to explain. Having trouble with getting pregnant, IVF and surrogacy is something very private and as things get complicated, many people want to keep quiet until they have some kind of secure feeling that this is going to work.<br />Today FB is a natural way of telling your friends and maybe it would be a great way since you can choose how to answer each and everyones reactions. Whatever you choose, I wish you the very very best and hope that your friends reactions will be joyful!Tandoori Vikinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997569594882551086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-29361011176889701832013-05-05T23:00:55.435-07:002013-05-05T23:00:55.435-07:00That is such a hard decision to make. Perhaps you ...That is such a hard decision to make. Perhaps you can find a website that explains the ins and outs of surrogacy and link it in your announcement post? I think either way you do it, announcing now or waiting till they are here, you are going to have to deal with some nosy nellies. <br /><br />This is something I've really been thinking about a lot lately. If our embryo donation is successful, it won't be readily apparent that it's not our biologically child conceived the old fashioned way. While we might not need to explain anything, I feel like I should because I want others to know this is a possibility. Frozen OJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14131711839046100355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8305426181346426926.post-27176460315966153282013-05-05T21:49:55.359-07:002013-05-05T21:49:55.359-07:00I did a FB post to announce to the people that did...I did a FB post to announce to the people that didn't know already.. It was kind of long but I basically said those who know us know we have been trying for a long time and we are having a baby via gestational surrogacy and our wonderful SIL is our surrogate (I had gotten her permission to tag her so I did and she announced on her page too) we didn't get too many nosy nellies emailing or questioning, mostly we got congrats and amazement :) I know some people do a bcc email as well to explain.. I did FB because even though most didn't know we were still trying some people did and a lot of people knew that we had tried previously.. Best of luck whatever you decide!!Babydreams2011https://www.blogger.com/profile/05773401619234656260noreply@blogger.com